Questions

How can you tell between a lie & the truth? How can you tell if the person you cared about & been with for a long time is lying to you? Why evade a question when you can just honestly answer to get it over with? Why start a gossip & you can't own it up when faced to face with the gossip victim? When confronted, why not take the responsibility if it's yours?

These are questions bombarding my mind right now. Do you believe in insulting someone else's intellect when lying to them? I do. It's kinda hard to accept that you're being lied to by someone you have grown to trust, love, & care. Do you think a 4-year friendship/relationship is enough to just let a lie pass by? I think once or twice is enough.

I figured I think I am better off alone than be surrounded by people who actually stabs me at the back? Why give genuine friendship when you end up being smothered by malicious stories that you don't even know about?

I am saddened by the situation I am in. Probably just a bit different, but all the same feeling. Brokenhearted? Probably. Disappointed? YES. And that's a big yes. Betrayed? Maybe.

So, again, I question how do you mend a broken heart? How do you build trust if one had lost it? How can a person change for the better if he cannot let go of the past? What does it take for a person to change for the betterment of his future? How can one let go of his vices? How can one change his paradigm? Is there a certain standard, or system, or a step-by-step process to change one's self? Maybe not totally changing the whole you, but reassessing the YOU inside?

How many people have reached this kind of maturity & to how many people had they shared this experience? How many promises should be broken so one person can learn?

I still do not understand the workings of the heart, & the mind. I still cannot reason why God has let these things happen. I still cannot solve the mystery behind life. Why do I feel alone? So empty, yet I try to so hard to fill the void in my heart with people. People who doesn't even care if you exist. People who doesn't even care if you are hurt or not. People who lie because they want to lie. People who lie because they need to lie. People who breaks the friendship I thought there was. I surround myself with material things. But they are just material things that we cannot bring in to the next life.

Do I pray? Yes, I do. But it isn't enough, maybe. I have to ask myself several times what do I see in my faith why I still hold on to it. Why I still hold on to God. The God that I cannot see or feel physically. Is this faith? Probably. I know God is out there somewhere. Believe me, I am no Aethist. I will defend God & his Words no matter what. There are just times that I ask Him. For whatever's going on & why I am experiencing it.

I hope that in time, things will go right again. They say life is not a fairytale. I say, it can be, if we are only willing to take on each other's crosses & give way to each other as much as we can. That way, we take advantage of each other in a good way.

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Online Dating: Protecting Your Love Ones

A friend of mine was murdered last July 31, 2010. He was found dead in his own room. What was so alarming was, his place was secured. I want to share this because he was also a victim of an online dating gone wrong.

Now I cannot help but be paranoid about the safety of my family. I read a lot of criminal stories at www.crimelibrary.com, and Mark’s brutal death could have made it there if he was in the US. I have watched (and still is) NCIS, CSI, & Bones episodes on cable solving crimes such as this. I’ve read so many criminal/detective stuff pocketbooks way back when I started to learn reading. It was brutal because he was shot at the back of his head and his arm was twisted, too. It’s a sign of a struggle, and it could also mean, more than 1 person was there in the room.

My sister emailed me that someone sent her a message on facebook inviting her to go to a photoshoot with a pre-registration payment. She has aspirations of becoming a model or an actress, and I told her that I would not mind that. And I would definitely not be the one to block her path if she wants to. I support her all the way. It just made me more cautious because it was just an email through Facebook and she has to pay just to be part of a photoshoot that she was INVITED to attend.

So I told her that I don’t mind you following your dreams as long as you’re careful. I reminded her to make sure that my dad’s with her when she goes there, or maybe my aunt or anyone older than her who she trusts and someone she knows who could protect her from harm. I told her to make sure that always inform us or the family or her friends where she goes, what she is doing (especially if she cannot go home early), who she’s with when going out.

I have also advised my younger sister to always text my dad or anyone in the family if she has arrived to where she has to go or if she’s home already. That way, if she went missing, or can’t go home at the usual time, we would likely worry because it would be unusual for her not to let us know where she was or what she was doing. That would definitely ring the bell, and hopefully, save her in case something does happen to her.

I am praying harder for their safety and mine, too. Anything can happen in this world, and we don’t know who’s going to be  next. I reminded her of what happened to my friend, Mark. I was really scared for her safety. I don’t want anything to happen to them.

So to all of you, always remind your love ones of their safety and what they should do. There’s nothing wrong with having fun and going out with friends as long as your family is well informed.

So don’t take it the wrong way if our parents, grandparents, older sisters/brothers, aunts, uncles are very protective of us. It’s not only a conscience issue, but the thought of losing you would definitely affect them. It only shows how much they love us.

I know I can’t protect them all the time, but at least I could put caution in their minds. And I pray and hope to God that they will always be safe and healthy, and happy. Click on the Things To Remember link to give you more tips on being safe when dating online.

THINGS TO REMEMBER